It can be tough when it feels like things aren’t working out. It is possible to fall into the mindset where you feel that you think that things work out wonderfully for everyone else, but not for you. But that just isn’t the case.
Comparison is the root of all evil
We have all been brought up to compare ourselves to others. But there isn’t an ideal time to go to school, to finish university, to get married, to make money, or to have children. It’s also not the case then everything has to repeat itself in the same way for our children.
If we are ever “behind” anyone (or everyone) in achieving a certain goal, a lot of anxiety and despair can rush to our minds. We then desperately try all kinds of things to get to that goal, all the whilst worrying that it will not happen for us. And what’s the result? It actually doesn’t! The more you despair for something, the more of these “wanting” vibrations will be released into the universe and you will end up “wanting” and no “getting”.
I want you to remember that it is always a big mistake to judge your life by comparing it with others. Your circumstances are completely different from them. Plans that work for others cannot work in exactly the same way for you.
Your reality matters
By worrying about why things are not working out for you in the same way, you create that reality. All because you are defining your reality by comparing it with someone else’s. Some one else’s reality does not have anything to do with yours.
There is a better way of thinking and putting things in perspective: first and foremost, realise completely how you have acquired this state of mind. Accept that you have been comparing your reality with others and that is not taking you anywhere. They have a completely different path in life than yours. And that’s okay. You should then work to boost your own mental health, because you are all that matters in this situation.
Love and trust is key
You need to try to love yourself the way you are. Love your circumstances and accept that things at this present are exactly as they should be. Also, allow yourself to believe that you will succeed. It might not be in the exact same way that you want to. Perhaps the universe wants to take you through a different path, but you will get there.
Trust that although things may or may not turn out to be the way that you want them to, they will turn out in a way that is best for you. You have to be relaxed and non-judgemental for things to start working in the direction of your success. Set your own definitions of success and do not base your happiness on how everything is working out for others.
Take action, but don’t try to control each and every event in your life. Try to do all that you can to make things right and then trust in the universe to take you to your goal.
You will be happier, more secure and you will have peace and love in your heart. Eventually, things will start going your way.